“Hey, don’t worry. It happens.” Ladies, we’ve all said that at one time or another — whether his problem with getting or keeping an erection is the result of nerves, too much alcohol or you’re his answer to a lengthy dry spell.
But what about chronic penis problems? A story by Kara Spak in the Chicago Sun-Times — “Wife closer to your friends than you? It could affect your sex life” — explores broader social connections and the impact they could have on a couple’s activities in the bedroom.
For men between 57 and 64, the problems in the boudoir might have something to do with the relationship a woman has with her male partner’s friends; if she’s perceived to be too close, and that compromises a man’s confidence, there could be corresponding sexual problems.
Writes Spak: “About one-quarter of men experience “partner betweenness,” the sense that their wife was closer to a confidant than they were. In that group, 92 per cent were more likely to report erectile dysfunction, the study says.
Laumann said the research took into account health conditions or medication that might otherwise impede sexual function in older men and still found the relationship between wife and friend can cause sexual issues. The problem was most significant in men between 57 and 64, a time when they’re undergoing a big transition, Laumann said. “This is when people are retiring, leaving the work force, reorganizing their life,” he said. “This is very threatening to a male’s understanding of himself.””
This research clearly targets a specific and small segment of the male population, but it underlines a clear and obvious point: Even small emotional fluctuations in a relationship can have a big impact between the sheets. If one or both partners are working too much or not getting enough sleep, if someone feels neglected or distanced, or if anything else is off kilter, sex can suffer.